Many believers think we should never use a strong hand in getting people to do what is right. Perhaps that is true, because actions forced are rarely long lasting. But it is interesting to note how Paul reminds Philemon that he (Paul) has the authority over Philemon to command him to take back the runaway servant, Onesimus (Philemon 1:8-10). But Paul says he rather plead with Philemon than command him.
If we tell someone under our authority that a particular decision is up to them, but that we would prefer one action over another, then we must be ready to accept the subordinates decision even if it goes against what we wanted him or her to decide.
