Years ago I had a lady in the choir corner me and say some very unkind things to me. I attempted to apologize for any unknown infractions, and I explained the reason for my choices in the kindest way I knew how. My explanations were acceptable to her. She wanted to be angry at someone and I was the most available person at the moment. She then proceeded to verbally attack the pastor’s wife.
It was not enough to have faith, to have virtue, or to know how to act. I needed to use self control to keep from reciprocating her offense toward me and our pastor’s wife (2 Peter 2:6).