Paul gives us two motivations for leading a quiet life, minding our own business, and working with our hands. 1) We do this so that we walk honestly toward unbelievers and 2) so we do not lack anything (1 Thessalonians 4:11-12).
Sticking our nose into other people's business naturally leads to dishonesty because we manipulate conversations in order to get information. We want to appear kind and caring but are driven by curiosity. When people we are manipulating recognize this behavior, they recent it. They feel we cannot be trusted.
Secondly, Paul says we should mind our own business so that we don't lack anything. Being a busy body takes time and energy that should be focused on doing the job God has given us to do. He gives us grace to face our task, but does not give us grace to interfere in other people's business.
How can we show our love and still mind our own business? We can show love by praying, being available if someone does want to share and by keeping our mouth closed.
