Peter tells men to dwell with their wives with understanding (1 Peter 3:7). Some men plow over their wives. They only see emotions and dismiss the logic behind what is being expressed.
It takes time and energy to understand another person's viewpoint. We need to ask open ended questions to discover the logic behind the opinion. For example ask, "What makes you uncomfortable about the way I want to handle this?" or "What do you think we should do and what are your reasons?"
Your wife may not express herself like you do, but more than likely you have the same goals of living a successful life. Hopefully you both want to please the Lord.
