Women, we are wise to remember that our outer beauty is temporary at best (Proverbs 31:30-31). Its influence will not last. Therefore to build our relationship on our beauty is one of the most foolish things we could do. But if we build it on the quiet attitude of the heart the chances of a healthy relationship greatly increases (1 Peter 3:3-4).
Scripture does not tell us not to look as beautiful as we are able. Esther spent a full year tryiing out different perfumes and learning beauty secrets before she met the king (Esther 2:12-13). In Ezekiel's word picture of what God did for Israel, he says God gave Israel fine linen clothes, gold and silver to wear as well as rings and bracelets.
But those things are not what will win the heart of our husbands or please our Lord. If we have any chance of influencing them toward God, it is with our quiet confidence in God and the respect we show our husbands (1 Peter 3:1-4). That kind of beauty can last forever.
